Comments on: The usual error and a book that’ll help you stop it http://conflictzen.com/the-usual-error/ conflict resolution tips for work and life Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:30:38 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Usual Error book review roundup, part 2 | Pace and Kyeli http://conflictzen.com/the-usual-error/#comment-7040 The Usual Error book review roundup, part 2 | Pace and Kyeli Mon, 27 Apr 2009 13:52:54 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=1171#comment-7040 [...] Review #1, by Tammy Lenski, a professional mediator and conflict resolution consultant: For those of you who’ve read many of the conflict resolution bestsellers like Difficult Conversations, Fierce Conversations, The Power of a Positive No and others, there’s not a lot of new content in The Usual Error. But that’s not a reason to skip the book. Actually, it’s a reason to read the book, because they highlight, in short, easily digestible chunks, some of the best ideas out there, and they make those ideas their own with stories from their lives and with little gems that stick in your mind. They take good ideas and make them better. [more...] [...] [...] Review #1, by Tammy Lenski, a professional mediator and conflict resolution consultant: For those of you who’ve read many of the conflict resolution bestsellers like Difficult Conversations, Fierce Conversations, The Power of a Positive No and others, there’s not a lot of new content in The Usual Error. But that’s not a reason to skip the book. Actually, it’s a reason to read the book, because they highlight, in short, easily digestible chunks, some of the best ideas out there, and they make those ideas their own with stories from their lives and with little gems that stick in your mind. They take good ideas and make them better. [more...] [...]

]]> By: Tammy Lenski http://conflictzen.com/the-usual-error/#comment-5461 Tammy Lenski Tue, 10 Mar 2009 09:39:01 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=1171#comment-5461 Jim, thanks for taking the time to comment -- it's been great to hear from you again. I love your story about the chest of drawers and how well it illustrates the "platinum rule" idea. Happy spring! Jim, thanks for taking the time to comment — it’s been great to hear from you again. I love your story about the chest of drawers and how well it illustrates the “platinum rule” idea. Happy spring!

]]> By: Jim Stewart http://conflictzen.com/the-usual-error/#comment-5452 Jim Stewart Tue, 10 Mar 2009 01:15:04 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=1171#comment-5452 This one - on the Golden Rule is special to me. Having grown up hearing this Rule in church each week, I thought it was pretty good rule to live by. Then I got married. . . I quickly realized that if I "did unto her, as I would have her do unto me" - I would get in BIG trouble! For instance - Birthday gifts - While I would have liked it if she gave me unfinished furniture it didn't work when I gave her an unfinished Chest of Drawers! I taught adult Sunday School for over a decade and this scripture would come up routinely to be taught. In light of my experience, I always taught the slightly different version of "Do unto others as they would have you do unto them." It is a slight twist, but I do think that it makes all of the difference in the world! Thank you for all that you mean to so many! JIM This one – on the Golden Rule is special to me.
Having grown up hearing this Rule in church each week, I thought it was pretty good rule to live by.
Then I got married. . . I quickly realized that if I “did unto her, as I would have her do unto me” – I would get in BIG trouble!

For instance – Birthday gifts – While I would have liked it if she gave me unfinished furniture it didn’t work when I gave her an unfinished Chest of Drawers!

I taught adult Sunday School for over a decade and this scripture would come up routinely to be taught.
In light of my experience, I always taught the slightly different version of “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.”

It is a slight twist, but I do think that it makes all of the difference in the world!

Thank you for all that you mean to so many! JIM

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