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What change, rumors, Seinfeld and Shamu have in common

May 11, 2008 · 1 Comment 

Timothy Johnson of Carpe Factum tagged me in his “blogospheric recycling meme,” inviting me to share 5-10 past posts that I think were under-appreciated. I’m picky about the memes I participate in because I like to stay on topic, and Tim’s let’s me do that. Since Conflict Zen is only a few months old, the posts I selected are from my former conflict resolution blog at Lenski.com. I hope you’ll take a look and that some of these inform or entertain…or both! How Do You Get Someone... [Read the full article]

Keep your balance

The secret to de-escalating loud, angry conflict

May 8, 2008 · Leave a Comment 

The bailiff unlocked the small courtroom. After telling me to make myself at home, he pointed to a small red button on the wall. “If you need me, just press that button and I’ll be in here faster than you can blink an eye. It’s an emergency button.” “Ok, thanks,” I replied, and began to unpack my briefcase. “I mean it,” he said. “Just press the button. Maybe you should set up your chair so you’re near it.” I gave him a long look. “You seem to want me... [Read the full article]

Calm down

3 simple tricks to calm down during disagreements

May 1, 2008 · Leave a Comment 

It’s funny how frequently people introduce me as an anger management specialist. It used to puzzle me, because I didn’t think of myself that way. But I get it now: When I help you express disagreement and negotiate more effectively, I’m also helping you manage your emotional state better. Here, then, are my three simplest tricks for calming down during disagreements at work or home. I use them myself and for helping others manage their anger, whether I’m helping from the mediator’s chair, the... [Read the full article]

Untangle disagreements

What change, rumors, Seinfeld and Shamu have in common

May 11, 2008 · 1 Comment 

Timothy Johnson of Carpe Factum tagged me in his “blogospheric recycling meme,” inviting me to share 5-10 past posts that I think were under-appreciated. I’m picky about the memes I participate in because I like to stay on topic, and Tim’s let’s me do that. Since Conflict Zen is only a few months old, the posts I selected are from my former conflict resolution blog at Lenski.com. I hope you’ll take a look and that some of these inform or entertain…or both! How Do You Get Someone... [Read the full article]

Build relationships

Everyone wants happiness and doesn’t want suffering

May 5, 2008 · 1 Comment 

“Everyone wants happiness and doesn’t want suffering.” I’m amused about the way profound thoughts can be so deceptively simple at first blush. As an executive coach and conflict consultant, I love the elegant simplicity. Of course, I said to myself as I read Jeffrey Hopkins words, of course. Then I began to muse about the implications of his simple statement and the depths made themselves visible. Buddhist scholar and author Jeffrey Hopkins served for a decade as chief interpreter for the Dalai Lama.... [Read the full article]

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