The Most Recent Conflict Zen
Relationship frustration: The “not my problem” problem
Back in the days when I was a college dean I ran into a gatekeeping problem with the executive assistant of a vice president I worked with frequently. Donna was a zealous gatekeeper and the first response was a routine “no” anytime I asked if the VP was available for a few minutes. One day, I decided to talk about the problem with Donna. I’m finding it frustrating that every time... [Read on]
What if you could reboot your marriage?
If you could reboot your marriage, would you do it? Would you clean out the memory leaks, glitches and bugs so that the joyful stuff could shine even more brightly? Rod and I are in our 20th year together and we’ve decided to do just that, looking ahead to the next twenty. And after much thought and discussion, we’ve agreed I’ll blog about this personal “lab of life” experiment.... [Read on]
Unclutter your negotiations and focus on what really matters
Today I’m presenting two negotiation and conflict resolution workshops for the Women’s Leadership Summit taking place in Manchester, NH. If you’re arriving here at Conflict Zen for the first time because of the workshop, a special welcome to you! For those of you who weren’t at the workshops, there were three big take-aways: How to recognize what is really important in any negotiation,... [Read on]
Simple gifts from judy ringer
‘Tis the gift to be simple, ’tis the gift to be free, ‘Tis the gift to come down where we ought to be, And when we find ourselves in the place just right, ‘Twill be in the valley of love and delight. – Shaker hymn, Simple Gifts I was delighted to find Judy Ringer’s new CD, Simple Gifts: Making the Most of Life’s Ki Moments waiting for me when I got back from... [Read on]
A visualization for letting go of things you can’t change
My mother died during an asthma attack when I was in my mid-twenties. I grieved and grieved for the loss of both my mother and my best friend. And when I was diagnosed with adult-onset asthma a few years later, I took it very seriously. That’s when I discovered visualizations and their power to change my reactions. Since several of you who took my poll mentioned the desire to learn letting go,... [Read on]
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