We’re wired for compassion — our default setting is to help. But sometimes we turn off that part of ourselves.
If we can turn it off, we can turn it back on, too. All it may take is the simple act of noticing.
So says Daniel Goleman, psychologist and award-winning author of Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence [...]
Uncluttering your conflicts means making sure the really important things don’t get crowded out by all the crap. It’s one piece of the conflict zen puzzle.
A few years ago I successfully mediated a messy family case in which a little girl’s grandparents had petitioned the court to be granted permanent guardianship. The little girl’s mother [...]
What does it mean to move toward conflict zen?
It means you know how to keep your balance or regain it in the face of difficult conversations that typically knock you off center.
It means you don’t keep adding new communication and conflict resolution skills to your repertoire if what you need more is the ability to [...]
A regular Conflict Zen reader wrote to tell me she’s been working on changing her past conflict patterns, primarily avoidance. Linda went on to say (and I share this with her permission),
“Maybe it’s me, but now that I’m facing some of the conflicts and trying to solve them, I’m finding folks sometimes want me to [...]
