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Imagine getting a phone call from the gardener at your out-of-state family home. Now imagine your gardener telling you that your house and your belongings are nowhere to be seen.
That’s the call a Dallas woman received recently about her family home in Jackson, Mississippi.
It turns out that a Jackson State University contractor demolished the wrong [...]

This is a Zen koan (traditional story) known as Maybe:
A farmer’s horse ran away. His neighbors gathered upon hearing the news and said sympathetically, “That’s such bad luck.”
“Maybe,” the farmer replied.
The horse returned on his own the next morning, and brought seven wild horses with it. “Look how many more horses you have now,” the [...]

Hugh Prather’s on my mind.
I haven’t thought of Hugh Prather for two decades, but he’s come up twice this week. I was chatting with Liz Strauss and she mentioned his work. When she said his name, it took me a moment to recollect who he was.
That very afternoon, as I packed books from my college [...]

What happens when you forgive someone?
Sometimes you unlock old memories of their goodness. Goodness that’s been overshadowed by their transgressions, but still exists.
And sometimes, you unlock your own anger and resentment in the process.
Calvin Sandborn, a professor of environmental law and the legal director of the University of Victoria Environmental Law Clinic, sent me a [...]

What if George Carlin had been a mediator instead of a comedian?
I’d like to think he’d have challenged some of the conventions and sacred cows of the conflict resolution world, just like he pushed the envelope with the media.
So I’ll do it instead, though admittedly no George Carlin. While there’s no FCC monitor to bleep [...]

I created this a while back and the 4th of July holiday seems like the right time to share it again, particularly since so many of you are new readers (thank you!).
Here’s my Declaration of Interpendence:

(Can’t see the video in your feed reader or email? Click here to go to My Declaration of Interdependence.)
Happy holiday [...]