Comments on: Conflict at work: How to know when to let it go? http://conflictzen.com/conflict-at-work-when-to-let-it-go/ conflict resolution tips for work and life Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:57:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tammy Lenski http://conflictzen.com/conflict-at-work-when-to-let-it-go/#comment-1303 Tammy Lenski Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:34:00 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=145#comment-1303 Vickie, such a kind, warm note...you made my day with your incredible story and words of support. I'm grateful the 'net brought us together and can't wait for the day we actually get to hang out in person instead of just via our blogs and email! Vickie, such a kind, warm note…you made my day with your incredible story and words of support. I’m grateful the ‘net brought us together and can’t wait for the day we actually get to hang out in person instead of just via our blogs and email!

]]> By: Vickie http://conflictzen.com/conflict-at-work-when-to-let-it-go/#comment-1299 Vickie Tue, 26 Aug 2008 20:43:43 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=145#comment-1299 Thanks for this Tammy. This is one of the most difficult questions we ask of ourselves. When is "letting go" being a doormat and when is it being heroic. Your list helps a lot. Once upon a time, someone broke my heart. I was, frankly, devastated. I sought advice from a few of the wise people who surround me. "Pray for his well-being and happiness," I was advised. Because pain at this level is physical, I accompanied my prayers with a strenuous physical work-out. So there I was on the stair master EVERY MORNING prayng, "let him be happy; let him find peace; let him forgive himself; help me to forgive him." This is not "intercessionary prayer, i.e., please give me "x." This is prayer in which the supplicant asks for the resilience, courage and strength to align one's self with things as they are. The miracle happens is the miracle that happened to Mandela, not the miracle that happened to Moses. I was transformed. And today, this man is one of my most valued friends. Turns out, friendship is what we were truly destined for. The other thing was what we'd once thought we'd wanted. This is the path of reconciliation, forgiveness and peace. Thank you for walking down it one step ahead of me, sometimes beside me and once in a rare while just slightly behind me. This is true community and I am grateful beyond measure to have found it. And you. Thanks for this Tammy. This is one of the most difficult questions we ask of ourselves. When is “letting go” being a doormat and when is it being heroic. Your list helps a lot. Once upon a time, someone broke my heart. I was, frankly, devastated. I sought advice from a few of the wise people who surround me. “Pray for his well-being and happiness,” I was advised. Because pain at this level is physical, I accompanied my prayers with a strenuous physical work-out. So there I was on the stair master EVERY MORNING prayng, “let him be happy; let him find peace; let him forgive himself; help me to forgive him.” This is not “intercessionary prayer, i.e., please give me “x.” This is prayer in which the supplicant asks for the resilience, courage and strength to align one’s self with things as they are. The miracle happens is the miracle that happened to Mandela, not the miracle that happened to Moses. I was transformed. And today, this man is one of my most valued friends. Turns out, friendship is what we were truly destined for. The other thing was what we’d once thought we’d wanted. This is the path of reconciliation, forgiveness and peace. Thank you for walking down it one step ahead of me, sometimes beside me and once in a rare while just slightly behind me. This is true community and I am grateful beyond measure to have found it. And you.

]]> By: Fabulously40 http://conflictzen.com/conflict-at-work-when-to-let-it-go/#comment-1194 Fabulously40 Sun, 17 Aug 2008 05:05:08 +0000 http://conflictzen.com/?p=145#comment-1194 Great article, Now if we can only learn to really let go.... Fabulously40s last blog post..<a href="http://fabulously40.com/article/2522" rel="nofollow">Are you getting enough water?</a> Great article,

Now if we can only learn to really let go….

Fabulously40s last blog post..Are you getting enough water?

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